Is it proper to ask your spouse their opinion before undergoing cosmetic surgery?

My insurance has approved me for breast reduction surgery. My husband likes my large mammaries and they make it hard for me to run (I am a marathoner) and cause back and shoulder issues.
The problems are not severe, however, it would be nice if my breasts were smaller.

I asked my husband and he stated that whatever I need to do to be comfortable is fine by him.

So I did ask but I wonder if he will be dissapointed with the results after surgery.

Should it be soley my decision or the both of ours?

I know exactly how you feel!!
I think if I wasn’t married and if money wasn’t an issue, I’d probably have a reduction.
My husband doesn’t tell me not to but I know it would upset him if I went ahead and did it.
I consider myself blessed to have a husband who appreciates the way I look. He loves my curves!
Knowing that, has helped me to accept myself over the years.
Of course it would be nice to find a bikini that not only fits but also looks good, but in the end, I don’t think I’d be much happier with smaller breasts.
It’s just a part of me.

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13 Responses to “Is it proper to ask your spouse their opinion before undergoing cosmetic surgery?”

tanya j on August 6th, 2009 at 10:58 pm

its your body and your decision and if he doesnt like it then i would say there is a problem he didnt marry u for your boobs
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bebop on August 6th, 2009 at 11:48 pm

Inform him, do not ask his approval though.
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dogs_overrule_cats on August 6th, 2009 at 11:53 pm

i think it should be up to you so go ahead and make the decition if you want.
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obscuremagic on August 7th, 2009 at 12:28 am

i would say it is mostly your decision, because it is your body, but that it is good to ask him too. he said that whatever you want/need to do is fine by him, so really thats good enough, but if you feel you want to talk about it with him more and are open to his opinion, it might be a good idea to discuss it more with him. he is your husband, and important decisions do affect both of you.
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couriousinms on August 7th, 2009 at 12:52 am

You did right by asking his opinion. If either of you are having surgery I believe it would be proper to discuss beforehand.
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kitcat on August 7th, 2009 at 1:31 am

You should definitely consult him but ultimately it is your choice. You should do it if it is for health reasons.
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orbitrain on August 7th, 2009 at 2:13 am

I think he already answered your question. I’ve dated a woman who had reduction. She was much happier afterward, and I hardly noticed the difference.
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pink_horse_rider on August 7th, 2009 at 3:01 am

yes, he is your spouse, he should have an opinion in everything you are a team now. (that is what my mom always says, once you are married you are a team and you must make your decisions as a team.
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Q~T on August 7th, 2009 at 3:43 am

It looks like he’s okay with it. It is a health issue. Even though he does love your large breast. He would rather you not be in pain. He’ll love you no matter what. Even if you had no breast at all!
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g_bramhall on August 7th, 2009 at 4:02 am

I feel that any major decision in a marriage should be a joint one. Even though it may be beneficial to have a procedure done and detrimental not to, the point of the matter is the inclusiveness that is a building block of any partnership, of which marriage is probably the biggest and most important of all. Alienating your spouse by keeping him/her in the dark is not healthy. Open discussion about all things is the key to happiness in the beautiful union between two people that love and adore each other known as marriage.
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mcdane01 on August 7th, 2009 at 4:39 am

Before you get the surgery – find out all you can about the procedure. The scars from this can be pretty ugly.

If you’re not having severe problems, I’m not exactly sure why you would want to volunteer for a procedure like this. I’ve got some pretty powerful curves myself, I’ve considered the reduction, too. I’ve also seen some of the scars on friends and I’m just not hurting enough to consider this option to be my best plan right now.

If this was about you "needing" a reduction, I’d say he just needs to adjust. If you’re doing this because you want to, not "need" to, I’d say you should probably talk it over with the hubby. Imagine him coming home one afternoon with a nose job that you’re not exactly fond of. It doesn’t mean you won’t get used to it, but it may be like waking up next to a stranger – physically and emotionally if the other is not in agreement.

Whichever you decide to do – Best of luck!!
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lpr747 on August 7th, 2009 at 5:03 am

since he’s already told you how he felt go for it. Remember, your health is most important and this is what he is considering…
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tabs on August 7th, 2009 at 5:19 am

I know exactly how you feel!!
I think if I wasn’t married and if money wasn’t an issue, I’d probably have a reduction.
My husband doesn’t tell me not to but I know it would upset him if I went ahead and did it.
I consider myself blessed to have a husband who appreciates the way I look. He loves my curves!
Knowing that, has helped me to accept myself over the years.
Of course it would be nice to find a bikini that not only fits but also looks good, but in the end, I don’t think I’d be much happier with smaller breasts.
It’s just a part of me.
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