cosmetic surgery, how to explain this to my daughters ?
all 6 of my sister-in-laws have had boob jobs, tummy tucks or some kind of cosmetic surgery. I have told my girls for years that beauty is from within, and never change for anyone, love yourself, but now my 15 year old wants liposuction, and she is in great shape. I have to work out every day and eat right all the time to have a healthy body, but one visit to the doctors and all their problems are gone, or, that is what my daughters see anyway.
What else can I tell my girls?
Tell them that boys will like them better if they are all natural. Let them watch a surgery show like Dr. 90210. Show them the procedure. How extensive the recovery time, etc. Tell them to imagine themselves as the women on the table getting operated on. I bet they will change their minds after that.
As for your 15 year old. Tell her that she does not need it. Have your sister in laws talk to her, but you talk to them first and explain to them that she wants it for no apparent reason other than for personal gain. Show her pictures of people who really need those surgeries. Make her guilty about even thinking about wanting that when other people actually need it to stay alive.
Good Luck!
You fail as a mother.
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That when they are adults, with their own money and able to solve their own problems, they can make the decisions regarding their bodies, but right now – the answer is no!
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just tell her that some people like theyre bodies and others dont but the body should never be somehting to be ashamed of and if it make them feel more attractive and beutiful that maybe in the future they can do whatever they want o theyre bodies
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You taught them beauty is from within while you worked out EVERY DAY, and eat right ALL the time?
Sorry I have to agree. If you were in any way MUCH different from your more obsessive family I would have said,
"have you not heard ANYTHING I HAVE SAID?"
But you are just as obsessed with beauty as the others are, you are just more self righteous about it.
you’ve only TOLD them this, you have NOT showed them this.
Y’all are obsessed. You send mixed messages.
The end is the same, y’all look great, why not have your daughter do the surgery over the other?
It’s all obsessed over looks in the end anyway.
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Tell her to wait till she has fully grown, and that surgery can have complications at such a young age. Maybe she could use that money on something else. What if she food binges and gains fat inanother area then what more lipo. I’ve seen some lipo on my friends and their bodies looks disfigured.
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Just lead by example. Continue to eat healthy and work out. I think when they get older they will realize they are going to have to do that to maintain their looks any way.Tell them God made them the way they are for a reason not for them to just go and change it with some surgery.
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Tell them that boys will like them better if they are all natural. Let them watch a surgery show like Dr. 90210. Show them the procedure. How extensive the recovery time, etc. Tell them to imagine themselves as the women on the table getting operated on. I bet they will change their minds after that.
As for your 15 year old. Tell her that she does not need it. Have your sister in laws talk to her, but you talk to them first and explain to them that she wants it for no apparent reason other than for personal gain. Show her pictures of people who really need those surgeries. Make her guilty about even thinking about wanting that when other people actually need it to stay alive.
Good Luck!
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you do NOT fail as a mother! THAT is for sure.
I am 13 and I have considered plastic surgery, heck, 1/4 of the girls MY AGE have gotten a nose job, some even had breast implants! I think that is ridiculous. And beleive me, so do the guys!
You should tell them that guys hate plastic surgery, because most of them do! They think its repulsive.
Also, you are right on in telling them that beauty is from within. You are only beautiful if you think you are. No ammount of plastic surgery or makeup or clothes is going to change that, ever.
It is NOT one trip to the doctor and POOF your problems are gone.
There are mannnnnnny test that you have to go through, you have to have exceptional iron levels and so on. Also there are sooo many risks with it. Especially with liposuction, there are some pockets of fat that people have that can not be accessed by liposuction. So they could end up with nice beautiful fat-free legs and then lumps and bumps of deforemd fat at random places. that would look worse then chubby legs in teh first place!
Lastly, if your 15 year old thinks shes fat, she is, in her mind at least, and nobody can change that ever, untill she does in her mind.
I am 13 and think i am disgusting but that just how alot of girls are.
Seriously, plastic surgery is NOT A good idea.
Tell them that.
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Tell your 15 year old that not only is she too young to consider that type of surgery, but her body is still growing and adjusting to the changes of womanhood. What she sees at 15 could very well change when she is 20.
She has to love herself for who she is and what she looks like because "God don’t make no junk".
In my opinion, people who feel they need surgery to look and be better is insecure about who they are. The modeling industry has really done a job on our children’s self-esteem, and it’s high time that our young look to "real people" to see their beauty in themselves.
Beauty comes from within, and once you see yourself as beautiful, then the world will too. Encourage her to seek her beauty from within.
Good luck!
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